Too Much

“You will always be too much of something for someone: too big, too loud, too soft, too edgy. If you round out your edges, you lose your edge. Apologize for mistakes. Apologize for unintentionally hurting someone — profusely. But don’t apologize for being who you are.”

Danielle Laporte

Something I've employed in my life in the past few years, without really pursuing it officially or anything, is just doing things. Saying things. If I think it, I will say it. To an extent, of course. Certain things are definitely best kept for the inner workings of my mind. 

While there have definitely been times where I've chickened out and not complimented a stranger or something of the like for fear that they would find me crazy or to be hitting on them when I'm really not, generally this has worked a charm. Impulse can be oh so good. Be spontaneous, be free, be true. There is no need for sugar coating. 

I think the issue with reaching out to others revolves around two things: pride and rejection. We want the other party to reach out, to make the first move, to show they are interested. We are scared that they will think we're crazy or stupid or desperate. People are really good at getting in their own heads. Honestly, take the leap and don't be afraid of being too much. You are always going to be too much for someone, so be unapologetically you. 

This has been a complete and utter mix of didactic and thinking out loud. Excellent. I shall leave you with another fantastic quote from a random Tumblr post that has stayed in my head all week: “You not finding me attractive will not stop me from being attractive.” Stay golden, folks.